We are who we are because we have been who we have been.
Freud is doing something subtler than simply saying "the past matters"—he's insisting that our very identity is *constituted* by history, not merely shaped by it. We don't possess a fixed self that past events have influenced; rather, we *are* the accumulated weight of what we've experienced and survived. Consider someone who grew up poor: they might achieve wealth later, yet remain forever marked by that scarcity, making choices a trust-fund child would never make, not from residual trauma necessarily, but because poverty literally built their being. This explains why two people with identical present circumstances can be fundamentally different people—their pasts have made them so.
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achie...”
Maya Angelou“The wound is the place where the light enters you.”
Rumi“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Lao Tzu