The real power here lies in Hill's claim about *equivalence*—not that hardship builds character (the tired cliché), but that the benefit waiting inside genuinely matches the weight of the pain. A divorced person doesn't merely "grow stronger"; they may discover they're capable of living alone, which becomes the foundation for choosing healthier relationships later. The insight asks us to stop treating suffering as something to endure and extract meaning from, and instead to treat it as a locked box with something of actual monetary or emotional value inside—which demands we search for it rather than simply survive it.