At its heart every aesthetic question, like every ethical question, is a question of paying attention.
What startles here is Dillard's claim that aesthetics and ethics occupy the same terrain—both demand the same fundamental act. Most of us treat beauty as a luxury and morality as an obligation, but she's saying they spring from identical roots: the willingness to truly see what's in front of us rather than drift through life half-asleep. When you notice how light falls on your neighbor's tired face, or you pause to hear the specific pitch of rain on a roof rather than dismiss it as mere weather, you're engaged in the same attentiveness required to recognize another person's suffering and respond to it. This explains why careless people tend to be both aesthetically dull and ethically shallow—they've simply stopped paying attention.